To achieve everything you want, you should first release it (Fahua Jing)

This morning I was reading some of the teachings of Fahua Jing(a Chinese philosopher), In one of his sentences he said" In a fight, the one who knows how to succumb always wins."...  the sentence seems stupid when you look at it but when you think deep in it, you will under\stand how deep is its meaning.
Jing's philosophy is an action but at the same time is inaction, just like when we were a child and your parent punished you with silent because we did something bad, but that silent was really worse than smacking.
I was thinking to myself have I ever won a fight with giving up?yes... one  time I went to a trip with my friends and we only had 2 beds in our room but we were 4.  I put my bag on the bed and went to the bathroom but when I came back I saw my bag on the ground and one of my friends was on the bed. I told her I came here first and I put my bag on the bed,she said no there was no bag on the bed when I came here. She felt so smart of taking the bed that was mine actually. I put my bag under my head and slept on it without saying anything to her. When she saw this, she came to me and told me that bed was yours sorry, go and sleep on it; I said no I am comfortable here but she went out of room so I can sleep on the bed.
This means action while it is inaction. Making someone to understand his/her fault without doing any special action. I mean sometimes we get very interesting answers by just giving up and doing a really small actions which I call inaction.